I cannot help myself when it comes to things that happened in the past and letting go. I journal, meditate and tell myself let it go, it’s not serving you, but still I dwell on the events of the past.
There is an element of reflection which is always good, but when you continue to think about something you managed poorly, there is a point that it is decremental and emotionally draining.
This week I was preparing for a speech at a conference and I recalled a sales kick off with leaders from over 7 years ago where I had sat cross legged for a period of time, when I went to speak in front of 200 people I fell over as my legs gave way. As I was sat waiting to speak this week, I kept uncrossing my legs! The learnings from the past are helpful, but then I started to dwell on it, thinking of the embarrassment, that’s not helpful!
Make peace with the past. We all make mistakes, taking the learnings is good, dwelling for long periods of time and replaying the event is not good.