Why do we read more into a situation than we need to? Why do we play the victim when we perceive we are being hard done by?
The emotional drain of overthinking can lead to a reduction in productivity as you become preoccupied by over thinking a situation.
In 100% cases when you ask questions, your misunderstanding of the situation becomes very apparent. Yet we ponder and posture on the unknown, only by asking questions does the situation become clear,
It is seen as a weakness, insecurity, time wasting and a loss of productivity by the leaders. So the simple answer is get over the situation and move on in seconds and not hours. The swifter you move the more resilient you are seen.
A male colleague of mine who has been a leader for many years says the difference between career women and other women is their ability to manage emotions in the work place. He sees a stark difference between the two.
As you age your ability to move on and not dwell on situations has shortened to a point and I can move on in minutes instead of days. Yes you will be much more productive.
Are you reading too much into a situation? have you asked the questions to understand the circumstance? Or are you playing the victim?
Top tips to help:
1. Finds mentor
2. Read mental resilience by Kamal Sarma https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Resilience-Clarity-Develop-Warrior/dp/1577316258
3. Don’t die wondering, ask the question
4. Move on from overthinking to liberating your emotions.