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Don’t speak ill of others

inspired by Sharon Martin

The words of Sharon’s boss at her funeral, will never leave me. He said “She never ever spoke ill of anyone” a rare trait that set her apart from others. Those words are inspiring and an important lesson for us all.  Her boss himself admitted to running down others and he hated himself for the trait. A trait most people have.Dont speak ill of others

Judgement is a terrible human trait, that leads to poor behaviors that really have impact on people. I never forget 6 years ago when Phil Crenigan my Business coach encouraged me to raise money for the homeless at the CEO sleep out.  The evening of the sleep out people from all walks of life speak up about the events that led them to be homeless and then the loneliness of homelessness. Up until that point I would not make eye contact with homeless people, let alone hold a conversation,  that day changed me forever and since then I always say hello and pass the time of day, and often give food or coffee. My judgement has gone and been replaced with a deep understanding of others who are less fortunate.

Not only do we need to ‘seek to understand, before we are understood’ a famous Dale Carnegie saying,  we need to  center ourselves in others focusing on there needs not our own.

When someone is criticizing  another person, not in there presence,  you have to ask yourself, do they do that about you when you are not there?  My question always is, have you shared the feedback with the person? if not, why not? Feedback is critical for people to improve.

Don’t speak ill of others, none of us are perfect.

 

 

By angelalovegrove

Angela has over 20 Years International Business Leadership experience in Technology sector working across the Financial Services, Government, Telecommunications, Construction, Mining, Consumer products, Retail, Not for Profits, Manufacturing and Health

Angela has led the setting up of technology start ups including fund raising - Quofore Europe, Asia Pacific, Masterpack Europe, Tenuteq Europe, High growth leadership Quofore Asia, Salesforce.com Australia, nbnco Business and Transformation leadership at Telstra Business NSW Australia.

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